How to defeat alcohol at home. How to get rid of alcoholism at home forever. The best method. Now you have a choice

It is not customary to say about feminine alcoholism, but harsh statistics says: in Russia more than 15% of women suffer from it. Julia Ulyanova found the strength not only to cure alcoholism, but also to tell about his experience - without bills and without embellishment

"Women drink more often than you think. The minority drinks openly, like me, and most secretly. Yes. And all vodka or cognac, "Anton Pavlovich Chekhov wrote in the" Seagull "play. Alas, since the times of Chekhov little has changed. My name is Julia, and I am an alcoholic. As a child, I thought that Alkashi are bad people who are lying where they fell and collect bottles on garbage. I had no idea that anyone who likes to drink could become such. Even me. Now I am 34, I do not drink for 4 years, and, as it turned out, to cure alcoholism possible. But, alas, I drank all my youth. 14 years old, if you are accurate. In my childhood, parents drank, but culturally. Alcohol attended the house always, there was even a locker, a proudly referred to as the bar, which was kept by the father's brandy, Mine Liquor, guest wine and vodka just in case. The rear wall of the bar was mirror. I remember the bitter-sweet smell and reflection of your children's pugs between bottles. I grew up with the conviction that you drink ok, that this is an integral part of life, because all my familiar adults drink from time to time. I liked family feast, because they gathered the whole family and everyone was so funny, kind.

At first it is easy. Healthy young organism: I came across familiar guys and proud of it. "

At 16, I first got drunk, and it became a revelation for me. It turned out that it was terribly pleasant and easy to drink. The world was instantly transformed. No problem, everything is fine, people are good, I'm a star. After school, my guy went to him, grabbing the bottle of vodka along the way. Ovensaine, he became gentle and caring, told me all sorts of pleasant, which I did not usually do. Then I returned home and, making lessons, went to bed. Surprisingly, the parents did not notice anything. The next day the story was repeated. At first it is easy. Young healthy organism, good metabolism: I have repeated twenty-year-old guys than terribly proud. But such ease of peetium lasted just a couple of years. In 19, I no longer remembered my birthday nor the second part of my own wedding. According to Rospotrebnadzor, most modern children are trying alcohol at 13 years. At the same time, a third of the guys and 1/5 of the girls from 13 to 18 are drinking vodka, beer, low alcohol drinks every day. That is, if a person begins to drink at 15 years, then by 20 years it is possible to predict the second stage of alcoholism with a hangover, zeep and white hot. To the third stage, few people live.

Alcoholic

• Once I slipped on an even place, fell and broke the leg in two places with a displacement. Three operations, half a year in the hospital.
• Once I urgently needed to store. It was night, I had to go behind the wheel. In the morning, the husband found a car not where he left in the evening, crookedly parked, with open window. Without documents and radio.
• Once on vacation in Turkey, the company has so angry with her husband, in the neighboring table, that we decided to attack them. But while the husband ran to the hotel behind the cloth, the cowardly people gone.
• Once in the morning I looked in the mirror and found that my chain was not on me, but the whole neck is covered with dosses. I still do not know where what came and where it happened.
• Once in some unfamiliar guests, I climbed into the aviary to fighter dogs in the hope of making friends.
• Once I climbed onto the roof of the five-story building dawn. In a short evening dress, on the hairpins. Was with a cavalier, so I needed to go for a pipe like "decent". Stumbled, fell and rolled down. Already at the very edge hooked behind the ledge. And all this, taking into account the fact that most of the drunken adventures for the morning forgot. Usually details reported friends: "Irka, what was yesterday?" "Oh, Yulka ... You are as always."
• Once I threw a drink, and as if cut off. I do not lose phones anymore, I do not make unnecessary calls, I do not go to bed without removing makeup and clothing. From now on, I can be sure that, going to the meeting on Friday evening, I will return home in a couple of hours, and not in the morning on Monday.

Mom, I can't drink anymore

Up to 25 I tried all the well-known alcohol control methods: did not interfere, did not downgrade the degree, did not drink before sunset. Insured vegetable oilactivated by coal and how Danila Baghrov, raw eggso as not to "sculp". I did not occur to me that you could not drink at all, because how can you refuse yourself in pleasure when life is so short? When I realized that I was already stuck in the abyss, I decided - you need to stay. "What do you want from life?" - asked a small plump narcologist. I did not answer, fearing to cry. Near the mother is terebit the handbag lying on his knees. "If there is no purpose, I will not treat you," the fat man thred. "You wanted to become a writer," - Mom got a handkerchief from the bag. "I want to write a book." Then the hypnologist asked mom to go out and pulled out the pendulum ... The doctor said the doctor's voice that if I drink, paralysis or death would happen to me. Stick in the forehead needle. Soon everything ended. I was encoded for 3 years.

At first, everything went to the way: I updated the wardrobe, recovered at work, I passed the rights, I met a future husband. He loved beer, like all the "normal" men. I saw a non-alcoholic for a company, and when it did not turn out, risked and took the usual one. No, I did not die, and paralysis also passed me. I just fell in stuff. Minus encoding is that it as if temporarily neutralizes a person, without changing anything in the root. The same personality, the same alcohol installations. A person simply does not drink temporarily: not because he does not want, but because he was said to him with a terrible voice "it is impossible." This kind of "treatment of alcohol dependence" is practiced only in the countries of the former USSR, in the West with alcoholism are struggling in rehabilitation centers and in the community of anonymous alcoholics. AA has about 2.5 million people in 180 countries of the world, including Russia. I admire those who go to group therapy. Because I know what the courage needs to be decided. I knew I could not. Therefore, I quit myself, but with the reservation: it will not work - I turn to professionals.

How to cure alcoholism

Having independently examining the AA program, I remembered that I, like all alcoholics, can not be angry, hungry, lonely and ... no matter what happens - not to drink the first winery today. I learned a lot on the forum notdrink.ru, in particular what we, alcoholic, more than I thought, and that we have the same problems: inconsistency, unstable self-esteem, laziness, despondency, dislike for yourself. I realized that, remaining the same, risk again to break. Therefore, although it does not want to be scared, you will have to change the lifestyle. Do other things, think other thoughts. Pour the power of will, somewhere to get confidence in yourself. To do sports, smile, learn to think positively, make a hobby. And, of course, not to drink at all, never even on New Year. From such advice, I wanted to sleep. At the beginning of the path without alcohol, life resembled an apartment without furniture: Empty, boring, Gulko. And lonely - no parties. Week sat at home, choosing only to the store and to parents. For days of surfing on the Internet, often cried. But did not drink. After having started to read: discovered the world of internal conflicts, child injuries and personal boundaries. I realized that it was broken, and decided to fix myself.

Diary helped. It's just not to think about it - I give a guarantee that in two minutes your thoughts are moving away from great trident ideas on the menu of tomorrow's dinner. So write and better from hand. Meet with yourself. Looking for and hardened everything that rotes does not breathe, prevents further growth. For my first sober year, I wrote down a few common notebooks: lists of goals, therapeutic letters from the series "I forgive Masha, which ...", diaries, dreams, tips, quotes. As a result, my head became cleaner, I ruthlessly thrown out the old trash. But even now, after 4 years, I continue epistolary exercises, but already in my "sober" blog, Nondrinker.ru. Welcome. The revision touched at my surroundings. I deleted those who interfered with my sobriety, trying to return back, and those with whom I was only interested to drink. With the exception of several old friends, by 90%, my circle of communication has changed. The first time was lonely, and then new people came with the emergence of new interests. My assistants were husband and parents who stopped drinking with me from solidarity, as well as my psychotherapist, with the help of which I radically improved relationships with my parents, and later wrote a book. Once I realized that I actually love myself - along with my wild past and all my cracks.

Go back mentally in childhood: how were you a kid, what did you dream about? Get old photos. Do you really allow this baby to destroy your life? She just got confused. Talk to her. I really helped such "meetings". I mentally came to the grove, where in my childhood walked with a dog, and turned to the children's part of myself. She talked about life, cried, asked for forgiveness. When it became easier, she said goodbye and went. And once I realized that I was free. "People do not give themselves a report in that at any time everyone can throw out anything from their life. Anytime. Instantly". These words of Castaneda - pure truth! So I threw alcohol, nicotine, meat, fast food, coke and even a chewing. The secret is simple: do not feed your alcoholic (any bad habit), and with each time it will become weaker. Concentrate on the most common actions: how smooth stripes goes from the tuber of the peel when you clean the potatoes, what kind of you can boil soup. Watch and track emotions: I am sad, because on gray street; This is normal, I can be sad, and I can turn on the light - and it will become more fun. Do not complicate! Sober can be light and without breaking. It all begins with thoughts. Just tell me: "Now I live soberly. I will no longer fool myself, I will not allow alcohol to destroy my life: soul, body, career and family. No more mojito, beer and single-barrel scotch whiskey. There is ethanol, ethyl alcohol, poison, which is deadly for me. " Tune in to change and remember: in your case, even the most worthless sofa day is victorious if you spent it soberly. And the victorious doubly, if this day is Friday.

P.S.

If you are not able to control the amount of drunk, partially do not remember what happened with you when you drank, you have a hangover in the next morning, which you prefer to treat "such like" - you have alcoholism. This is bad news. And now good - you can fix it. My life is not disneyland, but sometimes it happens completely unquest. For 4 years I had a thousand reasons to get drunk. But I always remembered that alcohol changes anything. Just doing even worse. And, no matter what happens, I am not looking for other worlds - I like to equip this. Sometimes I dream that I got drunk. And every time, waking up with a feeling of despair, I think: "God, well, why did I do it, because I don't drink?!" And then, looking around, I understand that it was a dream, that here she is, my good, wonderful, sober life - with her husband, cats and oatmeal for breakfast. And I, wasting, go to make coffee.

Doctors say that alcoholism is incurable. That former drunks do not happen. That they are useless to persuade, they are missing for life and society. But despite the gloomy forecasts, there is a chance to escape! How to help near man? What you need to know about this disease? Who are needed? And in what cases is the struggle is useless?

Every day in televisers we see young and liberated by guys, bins of drinking beer. In the films admire the vigorous heroes, which in critical moments pour a cup to themselves to relax. But there is another side that rarely shown on TV, but with which we are confronted daily. A young unclean woman, collecting bottles on octochel ... Three men, "smart" near the store ... Spoken and lost the apartment for a neighbor, to whom you give a piece of bread, cucumbers, fat ... Specialists assure that drunkenness is a social disease, which is susceptible to dysfunctional sectors of society. At the same time, according to WHO, every third person on the planet dies from the causes associated with the use of alcohol! Many years ago had prestigious work and family. What is the probability that regularly drinking person will not become an alcoholic in a year?

Perhaps among your loved ones there is one who desperately needs help. How to recognize this disease in the initial stages? If the spouse drinks a bottle-other beer every evening before the TV - is it a signal? Or goes after work in the bar to miss a glass and can not stop? Is it possible to help a spidaling person and what should I do? We give the story of three heroines, which for several years fought with drunkenness of husbands. Oksana believes that defeating the disease is real. Maria is sure that drinking can not be removed. Irina still does not cease to fight with the harmful habit of the spouse ...

History 1.

Yes! We defeated alcoholism together

Oksana, 36 years

My Sasha has not touched alcohol for four years. In the past, his boys and scandals, my tears and persuasions, the fears of our son remained. It would seem that all behind. But even now, when I see barely standing on the legs of a person, the heart is compressed from longing and pain ... a few years ago for my husband such a state was the norm. And I can't forget that hell.

It is difficult to say when it began his fascination with alcohol. When we met, he could drink a glass-other in the bar. The first time after the marriage Sasha worked almost by day: he wanted to open his company. And for dinner often poured a vodka for himself - to relax. I did not object. His efforts were not in vain. A few years later he organized his work, we moved from a small Khrushchev to a three-room apartment, bought a car. Nikita was born. We can say we were happy. Everything was good - that's just my spouse increasingly began to come home bent. At first I did not give it much importance. If I knew what it would lead to - I would immediately scored alarm!

Pokhani studied. Returning home leaving, he demanded my attention and ... alcohol additives! I tried to cut it: they say, enough already, stop. But everything is in vain. He got a vodka or brandy from the bar and drove alone, sitting in front of the TV. Once I poured all the alcohol, which found in the house. How naive I was! A terrible scandal broke out: "Yes, I am Pasha, like damned! - Oral Sasha. - And you with me, as with Alkash! What am I lying drunk under the fence? " Three-year-old Nikita never saw dad in such a state and was very frightened. Hiding, my husband slammed the door and left the house. I, swallowing tears, raped the son of the sown. And without sleep lasted until the morning. I heard my husband returned ... drunk in the insole.

From the moment my life turned into hell. I tried to talk to Sasha: Revel, persuaded. He did not use a couple of days - and then he was drunk again. The mother-in-law and mom also tried to admonish him. He agreed: probably, these hanglighted in the morning, thrust for drinking. But she passed day, and the husband again appeared drunk: "I had negotiations. I needed to wash the deal with partners. " Interesting to having a glass of wine, he drank a couple of liters. Once the subordinates led him under his hands - he himself could not go. Another time disgraced me in front of the staff, drunk at the restaurant. Once in the night I had to call a commercial brigade of the Detox, so that the husband would quickly led to a feeling - that day he had important negotiations. If Sasha did not come home by 9 pm, I knew for sure: he was drinking. Often turned off the phone so that I do not spoil the "fun" with your reproach. I did not know that with him where he is in what condition! Imagination painted terrible paintings. In a couple of hours he declared home, drunk. At such moments I hated him. The next morning asked for forgiveness and promised to tie. I offered to go to the clinic and encoded, but the husband was shuffled: "I am not yet an overhead alcoholic."

I switched to threats from the plea. She said: if he won't leave to drink - pick up Nikita and I will leave. Quarrels, scandals, permanent experiences - all this destroyed our union. Sasha did not give up, but he began to behave less defiantly ... He was a cleaner, but did not noise, did not require additives. I cried to his power, but it is useless: alcoholism is a serious illness and there is little from the will here.

Once, having arranged general cleaning in the house, I found partial bottles in the most unexpected places! In a winter jacket hanging in the closet. On mezzanine and loggia. In the bathroom among powders. Even in the far corner of the buffet among the croup ... Then it became clear that the threats also did not work: the husband was constantly applied to the bottle hidden in the apartment.

That day, they left the son with her son. I put all the "trophies" on the table, waiting for another scandal. I just sank hands ... and then the phone rang. The husband and son fell into an accident and are in the hospital. Here in me something turned over! All the way to the hospital, in tears begged God so that my boys survived ... The Lord heard me. Injuries turned out to be non-hazardous: the son of the bumps, her husband - a fracture of several ribs and abrasions. At that moment I understood how I love him very much and I do not want to lose!

Then it turned out that Sasha was to blame for the accident. Because of the next glan, he almost died himself and did not threaten his son ... Then he himself was very frightened. "Help me, I was stuck," my husband said. - Just do not leave me, I do not get out myself. Let's go to the doctor. " I did not blame, did not read the notations - I forgot about all the insults. Then in the ward we both cried ...

A few days later, together went to the clinic for alcohol-dependent. Sasha recognized his illness and decided to encode. I was over time first. I checked his pockets: what if the bottle is again? If he was delayed at work - the place itself could not find ... But the excitement did not show out - did not want to offend him with suspicions. Gradually, we both got used to a new life. They began to get out more often to the cottage, walk through the forest, fry kebabs, play volleyball. Recently, Sasha, together with Nikita, found a new passion - machine and extreme ride. As soon as weekend is suitable - they go to ride in the city, in the company of the same motorists.

My husband is not drinking for four years. And I do not get tired of repeating how I respect him for this decision. Now there is no alcohol in our house - and believe me, we do not suffer from it! And when I see a drunken on the street - like ghosts, the memories come to life ... But I know for sure: you can win alcoholism, although it is incredibly difficult to do it. Our story is that confirmation.

The problem is that most women do not know how to do if the husband begins to drink. What did Oksana do? Beglore the spouse did not touch the alcohol, threatened, tried to fight. But its actions did not bring the result. Because alcoholics are meaningless to persuade and call to honor, conscience, morality. Alcoholism is a serious illness, as the heroine understood correctly, and there is little depends on the force of the will. A person must recognize the ailment and want to heal himself. Sasha did it: he was frightened when he almost destroyed himself and her son. I saw my "bottom". And I understood: further or drink - or live. There is no third.

But there is another problem. A person who abandoned alcohol, often seems to be fresh and boring life. He does not know where to direct his strength and energy. It is impossible to leave this person one. Most recovered admit that they discovered many interesting things and even finally recognized their children! Sports help, new activity, immersion in work, hobbies. Sasha found himself new hobbies, and largely due to this it does not pull to the bottle.

History 2.

Not! I'm tired of fighting

Maria, 31 years old

About what it means to live with drinking manI knew since childhood. My father drank. No, he did not go in stuff, did not endure the last penny out of the house. I suspect that it was held by work, so drunks were only on Fridays and Saturdays. And on Monday, he went to work sober as glass. He I have a simple person, slightly rude, but honest. Pakhal, like an ox, brought money into the family. And at the end of the week - relaxed. Friends came to him, and began: first vodka, then beer, then still vodka. "Tatiana, eat carriers! Come on, dried, sausages, Salz, cucumbers cut, "he shouted to my mom in the interruptions between the stacks. The gatherings continued until the morning, I could not fall asleep, hearing drunk exclamations and laughter.

At such moments, my father was fighting me. I hated him. He was in a drunken form, he began to show my feelings to me: "My daughter is mine," the hands stretched to me, breathing in the face of the ovearrum. I dismissed viciously. But when dad was sober, it was even worse. He was unbearable: Easily annoyed, scandaling on trifles. Material words I first heard from him. He shouted to Mom, and she listened to his ulikely, although he called him a "goat". "And why does she suffer such humiliation?" - I thought. It would be better if we lived alone ... But my mother was afraid to stay alone, because dad earned money. For dinner, everyone did the form that nothing happens. Happy family ... I was to live in this house, I wanted to break out as soon as possible, go away, so as not to see these fake relationships. And she was sure that I would be different in another ...

I went well at school and after grade 11 entered Kiev Institute. Finally, I sighed freely! I lived in a hostel: a room is one on three, broken toilet tank, felling plate at a common kitchen, a pack of "Mivina" in the morning ... But I was happy. And soon in my life, Dima appeared. He studied in a parallel group and lived in the floor above. We met on one of the dormitors. I chased the lemonade, he also drank along with everyone. Dima looked at me in love with her eyes - and I tried not to notice that Cavaller was slightly stuck. We kissed in a dilapidated balcony, in the night sang crickets, smelled baby. And my head was spinning, or from the smell of flowers, or from kisses ...

Then Dima began to come often on tea. Then - for dinner. More than once we woke up in the morning in the same bed, and he is hastily, so as not to wake up my neighbors, went to myself. Sometimes he is with the friends of "boiled". After such meetings, he returned with a sick head, and I slept him with a cold brine. Sorry. And I was sure that he could always stop. In the third year, we got married and moved to a family hostel. The first year everything was wonderful. Then daughter Nastya was born. I burst between the grant of the diploma and the upbringing of the crumbs. Dima naturally paid less attention. And he increasingly began to come home bent. That beer with one-laborets will drink, then at the bottom of the birth can be delayed, otherwise I just wanted to relax. I tried to be understanding and patient. He is also hard as a father. He worked as a loader into a night shift, and in the afternoon he studied at the institute. Such a rhythm of life is stress for the body. I need my husband somehow shoot it. It happened that I was angry with him, screamed. "I do not need to control me!" - Dima snared, and I was ashamed. After graduating from the Institute, we moved to Dimin parents, in Donetsk.

In their house to drinking was another attitude than me. Almost every evening, Dima and his father drank beer, staring at the TV - it was considered the norm. I tried to protest, but no one supported me. "What? - said mother-in-law. - He loves you and daughter, brings money to the house. I do not understand why you are angry. " And I was scared. Although I didn't even want to confess even myself. It is terrible that Dima will become the same as my father. That sooner or later, the drink will take a central place in his life. I suffered this thought every time we went to visit. I began to hate holidays. And Dimin Friends, especially childhood friend Yura. Every Friday, Yura invited Dima to a bath to a bachelor party. Often Dima after these meetings home led. The next morning I arranged a scandal. He was offended, clapping the door, but then it was leaving, brought flowers ... Do not think that he was a bad father or husband. There were many bright moments in our life: together spent the weekend, he could easily repair the crane or nail the shelf, the soul did not care in Nastya ...

But his thrust to the spirits became an intrusive idea for me. I struggled. The whole world was set as a wedge on this struggle. By that time I had a son, Cyril. Little copy of her husband. And Dima began problems at work. There was not enough money. Everything went on the children, I saved, forgot, when I bought new things ... And then the spouse was fired, and he went to the first cock. Four days did not silent, then stepped out, caught, asked for forgiveness, said that this would no longer repeat. I sincerely regret it, because he is so worried about me and children, promises that everything will be fine with us. I was ready to turn the mountains to help him. Nothing, we will handle! I handed the children with a grandmother and settled a cashier in a 24-hour store. It often worked in night shifts to stay with children in the afternoon. A month passed, the second, the third ... Dima did not try to look for work. And increasingly applied to the bottle.

At first I was angry with him, for myself. Became nervous and irritable. And then waved on everything and closed in himself. My husband drank, and I pretended that nothing happens. Raised children. Found good work In the bank and went to her head.

Many friends condemned me: they say, how can you so much? And I'm just tired! From drunken, tears, endless persuasion. Then Dimini drinking companions began to appear in the apartment. I tried to put them on, but I reminded me that in this house I was nobody.

Just at this time, the leadership offered me a vacancy in Kiev. In the evening he told Dime about it. And put the condition: if he tie with alcohol means, we are going together. The next day, he got drunk and arranged a row. "I know what matters do you want to do in Kiev!" He shouted. And then beat.

Everything was over. A few days later, I went to the capital with the children. Now I have quiet life. Work is good, children grow. This year, Cyrill will go to the first class ... At times, old familiar call me, talk about former. He sank finally. Nowhere works. Feeds his mother-in-law, she also buys him and bottle. He does not remember about children - and that can give them a father-alcoholic!

Sometimes a miracle happens - drinking tie. But this did not happen to me. I did everything possible to give Dima, but - alas. For a long time I do not blame yourself in what happened. In front of me there was a dilemma: either normal life with me and my children - either eternal scandals and fears. I chose life.

Commentary of the psychologist

Maria tried to change her husband. However, the only person you can change is you yourself. As in the previous story, they did not give the result or persuasion, no request. So what to do? In relation to alcoholics, it is necessary to show hardness, there is even a special term: "tough love". We must leave it alone. Provide him to solve the problem itself. Say: "We love you and want you to be healthy and happy. But you will give up the money, the children see you drunk. You have two ways: either leave and live like you like, or you go to the rehabilitation center. If you want to continue to be with our family - start the treatment. " Maria also gave her husband a choice: either treatment and moving to Kiev, or former life. Her spouse chose the second. This is his life. Understand, you can help a person, but not solve the problem for him. You can and need to support close when it is difficult for him. But it is completely useless to impose your own, albeit the faithful, model of life. If a woman chooses such a way - it will be bad for everyone.

History 3.

Yes, but ... there is a chance to win, but you have to completely change!

Katerina, 34 years

When I entered the institute, Igor had already finished it. He was the star of the faculty, the soul of the company, the dream of all the girls! When he began to pay attention to me, I suffered from delight! Even offended by a girlfriend, which hinted to me that "he seems to be sitting on a traffic jam ..." I decided that she envy. Now, I understand that the prerequisites for alcoholism were already then. First, Igor was incredibly enlivened when it came to drinking. Secondly, he could not stop until she had divert. But it was discussed with humor: they say, made the boys. Well, thirdly, Igor drank much more often than others, although he did not confess this. In the cafes, he necessarily ordered brandy, at best - beer.

I have not seen the problems, even when we got married. Often together were in companies, saw wine, having fun. Young, no children, household problems (thanks to parents) are solved, trust each other. I calmly believed that the husband often stays spent the night with friends. Whether I am more experienced, maybe I could stop still then. But in my family no one drank, and the terrible word "alcoholism" I was not familiar to me. I thought: I want to drink, I don't want to do not drink.

I first frightened when it was in the 4th month of pregnancy. Husband, as usual on Friday, well sidewood with friends, called and said that she was going home, and ... disappeared for almost a week. We were looking for him together with my mother-in-law! It was then that she admitted, crying: "I thought it would cost, and he was all in the Father ..." I learned that Igor brought up stepfather, and my father "burned out of vodka" when the boy was only 2 years old.

He returned to the patient and frightened. He said that he had a failure in memory. All these days he spent in the apartment of a random acquaintance, waking up only in order to drink. At the same time, it was confident that the point is not in it, but in the "Palen" alcohol.

After this incident, everything seemed to go to the way, the husband thought about the consequences. He sincerely wanted our child and, of course, worried about me. With two friends actively built her business, and things went very well. Therefore, Nobody controlled Igor, sometimes the guys drank together. In general, he did not throw a drink at all, but the doses still decreased. True, he said that he didn't drink at all, but I saw that it was not so ... the failures did not happen. I rejoiced his successes, well, and drink all successful men - I was sure.

So we lasted three years. And then there was some kind of Armageddon! Igor began to drink every day, the week did not appear in the office, went beyond bread and came in two days. I cried, asked to stop for us, for the sake of my son. Igor Ried, asked for forgiveness, swear, and ... It all started again. Every time he convincingly formulated the cause of the breakdown - then I was joining me, then friends brought me, then customers threw ... In general, it was always to blame someone, but not he himself. Frankly, I believed him. Even offended on common friends - his business partners: Igor so diligently detected the idea that the guys squeeze him out of the general business. Everything turned out when his companions Andrei and Oleg, worried, they themselves came to me. It turned out that the husband had long been at work in a day, he drinks in the morning, disrupts the negotiations, poured several orders. The guys said they suffer from friendship, because of me and a child ...

And then terrible happened: Igor, who accepted well at work, fell from the office balcony ... That's, I understood that this is the limit. When her husband came out of the hospital, I, taking advantage of his fright and feeling of guilt, put hard ultimatum: either treatment and absolute rejection of alcohol - either divorce. I think I would not have done myself, but in my direction the mother-in-law and friends of Igor (those the most companions) stood. I will not tell in detail how we fought - this path is well known to close people drinking. Igor broke a couple more times, but at some point he decided that he was such a life, he was ready for everything to completely abandon alcohol.

Some kind of miracle he lasted a year. It was not easy but still good time. The husband worked, began to look better and feel, we went on vacation. That's where it happened, through which everyone who tries to commit to alcohol pass. He decided that he fully controls himself and could afford a little bit. As everybody. And drank beer. What started! We had to interrupt vacation, because without a doctor he could not cope. After this, we went to narcologists, psychologists and even psychiatras. We went to the temples. And here is the result - for almost 5 years, the husband does not drink at all. This is, of course, great joy for our family. But over time I understood: I really naively believe that the abandonment of alcohol will completely return you to the past happiness. Yes, we live quite stable, but I have to constantly work on it. The worst thing is that the husband has changed in character: it often flows into depression, irritable and capricious. At these moments, we are forced to walk on tiptoe to not provoke dad. We completely had to change the lifestyle.

We are almostceptible in companies, because everywhere drink, and the husband is unpleasant every time to keep the defense, it just infuriates. We practically remained without friends. For some, this is not a problem, but the sociable Igor is not easy. I constantly invent something for my husband: I'm dragging around the theaters and exhibitions, we go to Karting together, began to build a cottage. Alas, I became the hostage of his sobriety. Sometimes it seems to me that now my whole life is subordinated to the husband that the husband does not drink. I also had to completely abandon alcohol - once after the gatherings with friends, he made me hysteria. Even alcoholic called! Then, though, apologized. And this is not uncommon: the majority of alcohol refused painfully belong to the fact that others can not be, and it is impossible.

But all this is nonsense compared to what I feel when the husband is delayed or his phone is outlined. I am insanely afraid that he is angry and the whole nightmare will repeat! It is very similar to life on a powder barrel ... I do not complain, this is my choice. But I want women who choose this path to understand: all 100% will be able to win a duel with alcohol. But you can take it and learn to live with it, abandoning many habits and traditions in favor of the family. And a lot to work much. In fact, become a personal psychologist for yourself and her husband. Sometimes, when he flows into a melancholic state and becomes especially irritable (and I understand that at this time he desperately resists the desire to drink), I want to give a divorce ... After all, I can't even afford to relax alone! Sometimes he eats the cramless idea that I completely refused my interests in the name of his sobriety. This year it turns 34, and I really would like to give birth to a second child. But I am afraid! After all, I am still not sure of tomorrow! But the mood is changing - and I am ready for all for the sake of my husband. Because I understand that he loves me and the child, that he provides us, that together we can ... I hope the time will make it calmer and tolerant.

Propaganda of a healthy lifestyle, information about the danger of bad habits and alcohol, in particular, sets the goal to convey the danger of drunkenness and even alcoholism in various stages to society. This becomes a national problem, especially for young people, and therefore the question of how to defeat alcoholism is relevant to many.

Alcoholism is a psychosomatic disease that a person can overcome independently at the initial stage. Alcoholism always begins with drunkenness, which quickly passes through all phases, turning into a full-fledged disease. In addition to the physical and mental dependence, the problem of most alcoholics is the denial of alcohol dependence, and therefore it is difficult to start treating such a person.

Causes of alcoholism

Before you can consider possible options The treatment of alcohol dependence is to determine the cause of this phenomenon. Everything possible reasons You can smash into the following groups:

• physiological (hereditary predisposition, which is pronounced in children in the families of alcoholics, which it is transmitted at the genetic level),
• social (adolescents argue status in the company, advertising that promotes alcohol as a source have a good mood),
• psychological (attempt to survive stress, loneliness, disagreements in the family or with loved ones).

Any of these factors or their combination can push a person to alcoholism. That is why, in the treatment of alcohol dependence, the patient needs the assistance of a psychologist, who, among other things, will help to deal with existing problems.

Symptoms of alcoholism

1. The need for drinking, and the volume of this need increases. Russia is not taken to drink simply, and therefore the novice alcoholic is constantly looking for a reason for the holiday. It is about a small portion of alcohol, but it must come daily. This is exactly what physiological dependence is manifested. Alcohol enters the metabolism, and therefore should be constantly coming from the outside. Gradually consumed the amount of alcohol no longer causes the previous pleasure, and the dose is constantly increasing.
2. Loss of vomit reflex - even when using a large amount of alcohol, it is not rejected by the stomach, the body no longer opposes intoxication, perceiving alcohol as its own secret.
3. A hangover is such a state accompanied by a headache, thirst, fragmentation, tremor of the limbs. In a state of a hangover, a few glasses of alcohol are able to translate a person into a state of intoxication, while the desire to "improve health" is irresistibly, and the alcoholic is only engaged in search of another portion of alcohol.
4. Externally, alcohol dependence is manifested in red cakes of face and nose - numerous burst capillaries say that the vessels have already lost elasticity, and pressure drops and glued red blood cells in the blood determine the breaking of small capillaries. You can also identify an alcoholic in bags under the eyes, a characteristic smell, a yellowish shade of the proteins of the eyes and the finishness of the face.

Treatment of alcoholism

The treatment of alcohol dependence begins with awareness of the need for this treatment. Often this requires help from experts. It is especially difficult to convince the need for a woman's treatment. Female organism The faster is subjected to the devastating effect of alcohol, which suppresses the operation of all organism systems, and especially this concerns the brain and the central nervous system. That is why when working with a woman-alcoholic, the doctor has to focus on the restoration of the psyche.

Alternatively, an alcoholic may agree to the treatment under pressure from relatives, but the effectiveness of such therapy was initially questioned. Also, treatment may be forced, it happens in cases where a person becomes dangerous for society.

The treatment method from alcoholism should choose a doctor, which implies the body survey and an individual approach to each patient. In any case, it takes place in several stages:

• disintellation of the body that implies medication treatment
• the fight against abstineent syndrome, which helps to remove both painful sensations in the body and psyche disorder. Even in a winding alcoholic, blood cleaning from toxins takes about 5 days.

There is a huge number of recipes folk Medicinewhich are also aimed at creating a negative attitude towards alcohol, but such means are effective only at the initial stage of alcoholism, when a sharp refusal of alcohol does not cause harm to the human body.

Preventive action

Prevent the problem on its own much easier than it is subsequently treated. That is why the prevention of the development of alcohol dependence in adolescents and young people is constantly being held at school and in various social programs, parents should also take care of the formation of a culture of alcohol use in a child. In general, this recommendations can be given:

• Have a goal in life (career growth, ride, large purchase, etc.);
• Have a hobby, passion (sport, theater, etc.);
• Avoid drinkers, companies;
• Do not keep alcohol at home;
• Personal growth;
• Healthy lifestyle.

All problems of the psychological plan can be solved with the help of psychoanalyst, friends or family, so if such a problem occurs, which is the most common cause of alcoholism, you need to seek help from people, and not to alcohol.

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• Magic will help independently cure alcoholism, namely, church magic will help to drink. A person who decided to ritual from drunkenness to once and forever throw a drink need to serve prayers to Jesus Christ, the Mother of God, the healer of Panteleonu and the martyr witness with sanitization. The resulting consecrated water is stored in a closed jar and breeding conspiracy 1: 1 with holy water to drink on a glass every morning on an empty stomach. For a full home course, treatment of alcohol addiction with the help of church magic needs to serve in the church at least 3 prayers to get rid of drunkenness, performing the water next as soon as the water comes from drunkenness. In addition to the rite to quickly cure drunkenness, you can 40 days in a row in a row before the icon of the Mother of the Akathist "Unfortunate Bowl" Read the prayer for the treatment of alcohol addiction:

• Strong plot Anti-drunkenness will help withdraw from the binge of any person who is from you at a distance. Anti-drunkenness is effective conspiracies from alcoholism made on a new attachment castle. It is this old and effective method of self-removal from a strong zayny at home helps wives and mothers over the centuries! To hold a conspiracy, buy a new attachment castle, come home close it on the key. To make a conspiracy on the removal of the bobby split the key on the fire and throw it into a pre-prepared cold water. As soon as he wakes up, quickly tell the conspiracy against the feed:

• A strong plot of ice will cool the craving for drunkenness and, and later, a conspiracted man with alcoholism made on the ice, a conspiracy man can be having a strong disgust to the spirits. You can read a plot for ice for three months in a row on a decreasing moon. Put the iceline or icicle into a cup on the windowsill, so that it melted overnight and saw the moon. Early in the morning at sunrise when ice icicle melts on the resulting melting water, read three times within seven days (weeks). Conspiracy delivering from drunkenness:

• John Kronstadt healing from drunkenness, John Kronstadt, was very popular and helped to get rid of alcohol addiction to several thousand people. To get rid of alcoholism and addiction to alcohol together with prayer, the chapter 15 of the Gospel of John together, they contribute to healing from drunkenness for a very short time. The text of the prayer: Lord, the proud of gracious to your slave (name), elevated to the lasty of the womb and carnal fun. Give him (name), know the sweetness of abstinence in the post and the fruit of the spirit arising from it. Amen. For delusion of the passion of drunkenness, it is also recommended to read daily chapter 15 of the Gospel of John the text of which is given further:

• there is good prayer From drunkenness and alcoholism that you need to read on your own. The church argues that alcohol addiction is a damage to the demons on a person. That is why you need to pray in the church to quit drinking and reading the prayer before the icon of the Virgin "Inspromandable Bowl." This prayer has already helped many to remove dependence on alcohol and many only 1 time after reading the prayer healing itself from drunkenness forever got rid of thrust to alcohol. If you have a desire and faith in result, go to the church and read the prayer for healing yourself from the habit of alcoholism. Text of prayer:

A few words about how alcohol addiction is formed and how to overcome it, affecting the causes.
Recent studies have reliably showed a mechanism for the development of alcohol addiction. Ethyl alcohol has a systematic effect on the human brain, the biochemistry of neurotransmitters is changing, which control the work of the brain. That is, the global failure and the body falls into dependence on this "doping". Eating alcohol with artificially increased alcohol content (vodka, whiskey, brandy, gin, rum, etc.) is especially harmful, because Causes significant violations of biochemical processes. In simplified form, this is the formation of physical dependence on alcohol and other psychoactive substances.
When a person begins to drink, the mood improves, positive emotions arise, and in the earliest stages of alcoholism such an improvement is not only subjective, but also objective. This condition usually likes people and therefore the conditional reflex "Alcohol is a good mood" is consolidated. So the "first step", to a rather rapid formation of a vicious circle based on biochemistry, has already been made. Alcohol speeds up the release of neurotransmitters of happiness and joy, primarily dopamine and serotonin. A significant amount of them comes out of the "depot", but the saddest thing is that the destruction of neurotransmitters is also very fast, so after drinking the mental state of man becomes usually worse than it was before the use of alcohol.
Systematic use alcoholic beverages It leads to the depletion of stocks of the entire system of neurotransmitters, as the alcohol provoke it to work "to wear". The psyche begins to perceive alcohol as "fuel", and as the car does not go without gasoline, so the dependent alcohol will not be a good mood without alcohol. So we get a detailed picture of alcohol dependence. Its root cause is artificially caused by alcohol deficit and failure in normal operation of neurotransmitters.
Psychophysically, such a person, anxiety increases in a sober state or with a hangover, the mood falls noticeably, felt lethargy, weakness, the overall well-being is worse, psychological discomfort, irritability, depression, feeling of worrying with periods of boredom, emotional discomfort, depressed symptoms. In particular, the decrease in serotonin concentration in the hypothalamus serves as a factor that enhances the desire for drinking. Neurovegetative disorders appear: weakness, nausea, tremor, heartbeat, rising blood pressure, headache, pain in the heart and liver, etc. The existing chronic diseases are exacerbated. To facilitate the state, the alcoholic is forced to take a new dose of alcohol. By acting in all increasing quantities, alcohol and its metabolites (acetaldehyde) are even more violating the metabolism.
With long-term use of alcohol, a stable deficit of neurotransmitters can develop.
Unfortunately, it is impossible to eat nor even introduce yourself intravenously clean neurotransmitters - serotonin and dopamine. Since, being introduced from the outside, these substances are not able to overcome the hematorecephalic barrier, protecting the brain from foreign substances. Neurotransmitters should be produced inside the brain, a stimulator and direct source of their production are amino acids in the form "L". It is in this pure pharmaceutical and bioavailant form of amino acids that are part of our drug "Realon".

Very often you can hear that a pair of a glass of vodka will not harm at all, but rather even on the contrary, they will bring some benefit. However, even such a quantity of vodka is enough so that several thousand brain cells are permanently killed. You can imagine how many brain cells die with each feast - about tens of thousands. The day after the use of alcohol dead brain cells are simply displayed with urine.
First of all, the cells of the brain, which are responsible for the memory. This can be explained by the fact that the repeated man in the morning little remembers. In addition, all intellectual processes in the neural structures of the brain suffer.
What is the surprise of the doctologists of opening alcoholics who died exactly from alcoholic poisoningAnd surprises them not how destroyed the brain, and how it was possible to live with such a brain.
Of all the above, it is suggested that alcohol is a powerful weapon that purposefully deprives a person of mind. The worst thing when drinking whole nationWhen the people are drunk in a swamp of drunkenness. People from reasonable creative personalities Turn in a biting creature or just a working flock.